Hate and resentment are a cycle that don't end, but you know better.
You don't allow the people, places or things you can't control in life to ruin you.
Respecting someone else's opinion without agreeing with whatever they say is a science and an art.
It requires really listening to their side of the story while also honoring your own.
But if you're not willing to talk yourself up, that opportunity is going to go to someone else who is.
Besides, it can be affirming to give yourself the praise and attention you deserve.
But more often than not, you find yourself on the receiving end of a different kind of compliment: the old "you're so intimidating" line.
Most of the people you meet like you or at least seem interested because you have made yourself an interesting person. You're unapproachable because most people are dramatically unremarkable, and you don't want to waste time getting caught in conversations with people who trap you with long stories and laugh at their own jokes.If you act that way for long enough, everyone will start to believe it, including you.From being asked out on a date with someone you have no feelings for to being guilted into attending a family event, other people will rule your life if you don't know how to say "no." Eventually, we all have to learn to deal with guilt, or it'll control us. If they’re not enjoying something, they know there’s a hundred other places they could be, and they have too much self-respect to miss out on them.It means speaking up when your voice is shaking, pushing yourself to do things you don't feel ready for, and taking more than you feel you deserve — because the more you do these things, the less your voice will shake, the more things you will feel ready for, and the more you'll think you deserve. Here are some things every grown-ass woman should learn to do at some point, no matter how intimidating they are.Whether you're looking for a raise at your current job, are starting a new one, or are a freelancer constantly taking on new projects, learn to act like you believe in your worth.