Im dating someone with herpes
I always remind myself (and my You Tube and Instagram viewers) that despite having a status to disclose, dating shouldn’t become about being accepted or rejected: It’s still about meeting new faces, connecting with people, and having fun!”“I’ve had the herpes virus for about 15 months now.In one case in particular, that heartfelt moment and mutual respect even boosted the connection we felt toward each other.” So what does the conversation actually look like?From what they say to how new partners react, here’s how Laureen and 22 other women tell a sexual partner they have genital herpes.In fact, in a recent Bustle Trends Group survey of 226 women ages 18 to 34, one participant said, “It’s hard to admit to having had an STI, there’s so many gross assumptions about promiscuity and uncleanliness.” As another respondent put it, “Women are seen as less sexual beings in society which keeps us from being able to talk about issues without some form of shaming from others.” Sadly, the more women with herpes feel shamed, the more the cycle of stigmatizing the STI continues, and the harder it may be to tell a sexual partner you have herpes.According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), more than one out of every six people 14-to-49 years old in the U. have genital herpes, also known as herpes simplex virus type 2 (HSV-2).Siegel, clinical sexologist and certified sexuality educator at the Modern Institutes for Sex Therapy Training and Sage Institute for Family Development, tells Bustle.
But, when getting to know a new partner, revealing your STI status isn’t as simple as revealing your favorite place to grab dinner.
I know this guy that actually married a girl with the herps.
He didn't have it himself at the time, but he didn't care and accepted her with open arms. He's a better man than me that's for sure, because I don't think I can date someone with the herps, even if I was the meat between a Mila and Natalie lesbian sandwich.
I make sure that my body language — posture, tone of voice, eye contact — are all conveying how I feel about having herpes: There’s nothing shameful about it!
A herpes disclosure can affect how physically intimate a relationship will be, but rejection is not a systematic reaction.