Dating single parent meeting kids
I can’t dive in head over heels with someone, staring directly into their eyes unblinkingly for three months straight while reveling in the feeling of a new love anymore.
I am on full-time mom duty every other week and the time away from any potential prospects has given me time to look at things a little more honestly and realistically.” —Annie, 30, Moscow, IDWhat are some logistical concerns about dating with kids? It’s difficult being a single mother and getting everything done in my life and doing it well—let alone finding time to regularly make commitments with another person. I don’t have a ton of financial resources, so I struggle to pay for sitters and the clothes and getting my hair done regularly.” —Ivy, 38, Charleston, SC“If a woman I'm dating comes over, it has to be post-bedtime.
I asked a number of my women friends this exact question before I put up a profile and actually got a variety of answers.
I didn’t want them to think that I thought women were disposable because I might not want a second or third date.” —Benson, 49, Toronto, ON“Things move more slowly.
Dating as a parent means constantly juggling and negotiating multiple peoples’ needs and wants.
There are a lot of tough questions with no good answers.
While we’ve discussed meeting each other’s kids, it’s something we’re holding off on until we’re sure this is a stable, serious relationship. I have friends who waited almost a year, and one who only waited 2 weeks. It depends on the kids’ ages, personalities, and [specific] situations.” —Hannah, 43, Dayton, OH“I have a rule that I have to have been dating the person for a year. For example, if I was dating someone who had kids in the same age group, it would make sense for us and our kids to hang out and it wouldn’t necessarily need to be a ‘’ moment. My kids know me better than anyone, and I actually trust their judgment of people’s character.” —Hannah, 43, Dayton, OH“If they didn't like someone initially, not necessarily. But a person’s parenting style is very revealing, and a couple times I was turned off by what felt like tolerance for abusive behavior from their young (6-10 year-old) sons.
But I haven’t felt the need to break that rule yet.” —Annie, 30, Moscow, IDWould you stop dating someone if you kids didn’t like them? Kids have complicated emotions just like I do, and I think they deserve a chance to work through whatever emotional hang-ups they may have about a situation. That was really hard to watch and it made me want to get out of the relationship.” —Jeff, 52, Boston, MA“I have never dated someone with kids.