Dating a married man for 3 years
Darleen would tell me that if he could leave his wife for her, he certainly would and that her man often showed great concern for whether or not she was cheating on him. I found myself angry quite often as I told Darleen that if he loved her he would divorce his wife rather than play this game with her. She got on her high horse by stating that if a man has kids he can't leave.I happen to have known several highly moral men who divorced their wives even though they had two or three kids. Her man told her that he loved her but because he had two children with his wife, he could not leave her.He also said that he no longer slept with his wife, but that they had an understanding.If he is content to have sex with you and makes no move to make a permanent life with you, then you must understand that he does not see you as being very important. If you were with a man who you were not having sex with and who you did not love, and you had this man on the side who you truly did love and had a great connection with, would you be content to go home to the man you did not really want, knowing that your lover is single and could easily find someone who is available for him full time?The thought of it probably sends you into a cold sweat.Don't you think that if he is having an affair with you despite being married is wrong.Of course you feel guilty but your high interest has blinded you and you are not looking at the consequences of the reality.
Married guys tend to be deceptive and liars (they have to be to have affairs). Also, anybody who breaks-up via e-mail, is a lame person. since the children are grown, what would be the excuse for staying? he isn't weak to see u or talk to u because he was strong enough to see and talk to his wife day in and day out while cheating behind her back.
I don't have a possibility to see him now, but looks like he is in depression...:(that's what u think. u and many other mistresses who have said the same thing, true love, unconditional, soul mates, that he will divorce his wife and marry me, thanking him for happiness. u felt so guilty that u continued an affair with a married man for 3 years.
" I feel sorry for you but you are a little sister to me , so i advise you to leave this guy as soon as possible, whatever he did for you is only for his selfish reasons and don't fall for guys who are in a relationship or has an ex girlfriend in the back ground because you will only get hurt, when i was young i made a lot of mistakes likes this but it only back fired me , it is the worst place to be in this world.
Grieve for your loss, completely block him from your life , go to a different city, be independent , get a job , get a single and nice guy who will be your boyfriend and will love you and can give you a better future.